The Deflated Kickball Funk

 
 

Imagine, for a moment, that it's recess at the local elementary school. The kids are all busting out of their classroom doors, psyched for a rousing game of kickball. However, when they get to the field and the teacher hands them their ball, it's not exactly what they were expecting. Instead of a firm, bouncing, rubber orb, this ball looks hardly ball-like at all. It actually looks more like a pita. It's flat, empty of air, and virtually unusable.

Naturally, the children riot. This is the worst thing that has ever happened to them. They have lived very privileged lives up until this point.

So why exactly are these kids so distraught?

Because a deflated kickball, while still technically a kickball, doesn't serve its purpose.

That's sort of your situation right now. You're the deflated kickball in this scenario. I know that sounds like a bummer, but allow me to explain...

At your best, you bring incredible things to this world. People rally around you, and you take great pride in serving your purpose. You do the things you were born to do, make the things you were born to make, help the people you were born to help.

But perhaps recently, someone or something has let your air out a bit. Perhaps lately you find yourself lacking confidence, unsure of what it is you are supposed to be doing with your time, nervous that you aren't living up to your full potential but totally clueless as to how to even do that in the first place.

Rather than waking up each day certain that you are on the right track, instead you wake up with a series of fearful questions:

What if I'm not good enough/talented enough/smart enough?

What if I mess up?

What if everything I've ever worked for is for nothing?

Instead of living life like your bouncy, badass self, lately you've been living life a bit deflated. Thus, you're struggling to feel like you are fulfilling your purpose.

If this is sounding at all familiar, the important thing to remember is that you are not alone in this. Not one bit. Throughout history, many of the world's greatest creative minds have gone through exactly this type of Deflated Kickball Funk. It sucks, but it doesn't have to stop you.

We'll be working on ways to move past your funk throughout the rest of this series, but in the meantime, here are some things you can focus on this week:

If you're feeling like a flat, deflated, useless kickball:

1. This week, let's leave to-do lists in the dust. Let's focus less on what you have left to do and more on what you've actually done. In other words, make a "Done Did" list. At the end of each day, write down three things you accomplished in the last twenty-four hours. Big or small. Doesn't matter. Just get it on paper.

2. Schedule time to do one thing that you are incredibly skilled in, particularly if you haven't done it in a while. This week, find a hobby, a creative outlet, a sport, an activity -- whatever you're great at, find a way to fit it into your schedule this week. And then once you do it, find a way to celebrate the fact that you did it.

3. Get around people who make you feel inflated. This week especially, find time to be around people who make you feel most like yourself. Really consider who that might be for you. It might not be the first person you think of.

Alright, you beautiful kickball, you! Go get some air!